Putting an End to People Pleasing

Have you noticed this habit of yours to deny your own feelings of discomfort, stress and disapproval and go ahead anyways with the request being made of you to do something you really don’t want to?

Will you attend a family gathering even though you know it always ends in you being disregarded, judged and leaving in tears?

Go ahead with a visit with that ´friend´ you don’t even respect, who always puts you down but you don’t want to deal with the confrontation of telling them no?

Pick up the call from that person you know will talk your ear off for an hour about themselves and never gives any attention to how you are or what’s happening in your life?

People who do these things call themselves a People Pleaser, but that’s not very accurate is it? Are you really pleasing that person by enabling their selfish, cruel behavior?

The truth is that you continue showing up in these situations you really don’t want to because you are not valuing yourself.

Due to your longing for acceptance and love from others you tell yourself that they need you or maybe this time things will be different and you’ll finally receive the care you are craving.

Due to your fear of confrontation you ignore the fact that maintaining these unhealthy relationships is exhausting you daily as even when you think of that person you feel your energy drop.

Breaking free from these relationships is a process much longer than I can go into in a 2 minute read, yet recognizing this habit you have and acknowledging how it is affecting you is the first step.

Ask yourself what you have to lose by being honest with these people in your life and what you have to gain.

The more you stand up for yourself in a kind, respectful, honest way, the less you will encounter these one-sided, draining relationships and the more you will unite with truly satisfying relationships, including the most important one, the relationship you have with yourself.

I’d love to engage with you in your questions or comments below, perhaps three words describing how you felt the day you finally stood up for yourself or the struggles you have in not doing so.

Kindly,

Charity