Learning to Let Go
- Charity Joy Rose
- Apr 11, 2023
- 2 min read

Sometimes it feels as though you have no choice in the matter, that the sorrow will stay as long as it chooses, just when you think you’ve finally turned the corner and you’ve felt a glimmer of lightness in your heart, Bam! That familiar heavy wave of grief opens the floodgates of tears once more. You may question how is it possible for a human to cry as much as you have? And when will it end? There is no forcing it away, you may be smiling on the outside to the world but inside you can feel your heavy heart weighed down by the loss you are enduring. If you are feeling this way right now, my heart goes out to you with all the love, compassion and tenderness you deserve.
So how can we learn to let go of this sorrow when we feel we have no control over it?
Accepting that this is the process you are in, is the first step. No longer having that person who you love with all your heart by your side is one, if not, the most painful process in one’s life, and it truly does take time to heal, no matter all the healthy habits and perspectives you keep returning to, this is the greatest loss you have ever lived and it is going to take time to return to the lightness in your heart you once knew. I know this doesn’t feel very encouraging, but hold on dear friend, there is hope.
Accepting a tough reality isn’t easy, but it is necessary to help you to stop fighting what is and move into the sphere of supporting yourself through what is, and this is where the light of hope shines in. Moving from ‘When will this pain end?!’ to ‘Dear heart, how can I comfort you? What can I do to help you feel held with love?’
There are so many holistic, artistic and somatic ways we can relate to and express our emotions. Find one that speaks to you, explore it and you will feel a shift within. Learning to let go is a voyage through dark and stormy seas, be kind and gentle with your tender heart, she will shine again, and her love will be far more powerful than ever before, once she has navigated through this shipwreck of loss and discovered the treasure of tending to her light of love.
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