First Steps Forward From Grief

Parting ways from that singular, spectacular person you have intimately shared everything with is one of the most heartbreaking periods of your life. The physical pain and constriction of feeling your beaten heart shattering, withering, gasping, as you cry uncontrollably, day, after day, after day, feels as though it will never end.

Weeks go by and you remain unable to do anything aside from move from your bed to your sofa and attempt to hide from the pain through watching endless shows until your head starts to pound. Your thoughts always return to how much you long to be with your love again and how you wish it could be so, even though you know it can not be, you are not ready nor willing to accept this truth.

How do you move forward from this dark, heavy grief and sadness?

It’s a choice. You choose to feel light again, to be happy again. You’re not sure how you will get there, but it starts with telling yourself that you choose to live your life in a way that feels good and you commit to creating this for yourself.

You switch from zoning out on Netflix to listening to inspirational speakers and music about healing, spirituality and renewal.

You bravely start to talk with your friends again, or a therapist, and are honest about how you are doing. Through speaking aloud your emotions and thoughts and receiving back empathy, kindness, clarity and encouragement, that deep hole in your heart begins to fill with a stronger will to rebuild yourself.

No matter how much you don’t want to, you start to move your body again, however you can, go for a walk or jog, do some yoga, and after each sweat or long, deep stretch you notice that not only does your body feel lighter but so does your Spirit.

You commit to feeding yourself at least one healthy meal a day, and before you eat it mindfully, you begin with a prayer of thanks for that meal, and your gratitude spreads outwards to all the areas in your life that bring you goodness, warm your heart, and bring a soft smile to your face.

There is so much more to say about this path of rediscovering your own happiness and moving forward with your life, and for now, I respectfully offer these first few steps.

You will find your way and you don’t need to do it alone. We’re here for you, your loving friends, therapists, authors, musicians, artists and poets. Each have lit a candle on this path of Courage and Love for you.

I´d love to engage with you in your questions or comments below-perhaps on ways you have found your strength through grief or your struggles in doing so.

Kindly,

Charity